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Old 05-13-2014, 11:39 AM   #1
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Do You Pay It Forward?


Have you heard of the "Pay It Forward" movement?

Although the term is certainly much older, the popularity with it really started with an incredible movie back in 2000.

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Is this something you practice in your life? If so, in what ways?

For those unfamiliar with it all, this may help explain it.
http://www.wikihow.com/Pay-It-Forward

Some people choose to practice random acts of kindness.
http://www.randomactsofkindness.org/

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"No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted." Aesop
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Old 05-13-2014, 01:09 PM   #2
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Cricket. You always post the thoughtful questions.

Never really thought about good acts as paying it forward, Karma or any of that but, I grew up with great parents where we always did the holiday dinners for the poor, donated to the shelter etc....

Now a days I just help friends out when they need it. Had an operation? I'll bring you some dinners. Feel like you're about to have nervous breakdown? I'll take your kids off your hands for a few days.
Need help moving, hell yeah, you can borrow my truck and I'll even help you move.

I do have a fantasy of winning the lotto, traveling around the world and anonymously spending the money on stuff like rebuilding a school that burnt down, or buying a car for that struggling family etc... It would be such a pleasure to make people's lives a little easier. Cuz I sure don't need to be hanging on to millions myself.

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We used to call this " not being an A--Hole"

It's been around a lot longer than that movie...........

I guess the most obvious one to me, is:

2007-2008 around there------ my youngest son brought home a kid---R.

My son vaguely knew R. from school, in actuality R. had been in my older sons grade.

this isn't going to be one of those saving a poor kid from the streets story BTW----- R. Actually came from what could have been an affluent background

But when R. was in 4th grade his parents divorced, mom remarried and started a new family---- and dad went on to an endless string of Bimbos----- and R. was basically left out in the cold, metaphorically.---- nobody really wanted him---- mom and dad wanted their new lives.......

so----when our kids graduated high school---- R. was off to college in an instant with a full scholarship, student loans etc.

so when college let out, R. comes back to town----and that's where my son picked him up. He was living in his car because he would not go "home" to mom or dad

So---un-beknown to my wife and I---- he started crashing on our couch. this went on for some time before my wife figured out that when R. wasn't carashing on our couch---- he was sleeping in his beater car.

keep in mind, I never laid eyes on R. untill about 3 weeks before this point......

so my wife goes to R. and gives him keys to the house----she takes him upstairs and says " no more sleeping on the couch--- this is your room, this is your bathroom, these are your closets, dinner is at 5:15 PM EVERY DAY

and so---- for the next 5 years or so----R. lived with us---- when college was in session, he was off to college, vacation time he came straight home to our house, Xmas time, he got whatever gifts my sons got, family goes on vacation, R. comes along to the beach house like everyone else, R. has a birthday---- the whole family goes out to a restraunt like everyone else.

R. gets a girlfriend--- he introduces her to US.

At one point R. had changed his major so many times he was in danger of losing his scholarship because he didn't have enough credits in a declared major----- so I went to work figuring how I was going to pay R.s tuition along with my other sons.

for about a year, R. was living with us after my other sons had their own places.

I remember, every day----R would saunter in to the kitchen when my wife was cooking----and THAt is when the remedial mothering took place----4-5 years of kitchen prep time to give R. what his real parents never did in the preceeding 18 years.

Now---- I got to admidt--- I am enough of a realist to have thought " WTF R.--- kids your age are getting shot every day in Afghanistan---- so your mommy didn't love you? , Too bad, grow up"

But I like to think I was smart enough to realize R. was just an exceptionally immature kid---- and so I kept my mouth shut.

Today R. is a college graduate ( I moved him back from college, not his parents)---- good job and he owns his own home. He will be an usher in my youngest sons wedding this fall.

I am very proud of R. , but I have nothing good to say about the 2 people who spawned him.

so--- business is good for us, we are doing well---- both my blood sons work with me-----and we are a few months away from making our next hire. so I say to my sons " we need to start thinking about the next guy---- you 2 have input here, you know because this will effect YOUR Bonus package, understand. So my youngest says " we won't be able to find an experienced guy----- so what we should do--- the important thing---- is we hire a quality person. A good person---- if we do that we can teach them everything we need them to know---- but if he isn't a quality person---- what are we gonna do with him ?????

so I figure my kids turned out well also ,LOL

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"No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted." Aesop

I think sometimes people think random acts of kindness need to be really big things.
http://www.randomactsofkindness.org/kindness-ideas

For me, I try to make it a way of life. It can be as simple as helping someone with a door or taking the time to make people smile.
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I pushed a snapper turtle out of the road today with a 2x, does that count?

Karma is my worst enemy, pretty sure no matter what I do I'll ever be even.
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"No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted." Aesop

I think sometimes people think random acts of kindness need to be really big things.
http://www.randomactsofkindness.org/kindness-ideas

For me, I try to make it a way of life. It can be as simple as helping someone with a door or taking the time to make people smile.
I make people smile every day on CT.
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I pushed a snapper turtle out of the road today with a 2x, does that count?

Karma is my worst enemy, pretty sure no matter what I do I'll ever be even.
Just keep at it Earl!
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Just keep at it Earl!
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I make people smile every day on CT.
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For me it isn't about karma. It simply makes me feel good to find ways to make people smile.
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For me it isn't about karma. It simply makes me feel good to find ways to make people smile.
So Cricket, I know you run a forum, but what's your back ground? Ever work in the construction industry?
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So Cricket, I know you run a forum, but what's your back ground? Ever work in the construction industry?
Nope, but I have been around construction workers all my life. I married one or two of them too.
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Good question cricket,

Today I saw a gentleman from New York struggling with his spare tire cause he had a flat at my local 7-Eleven, now I'm dressed to go to my son school concert and I still lend a hand trying to lower the tire down. (Older chev pickup)

Kind of like using a four foot long eyeglass screwdriver to loosen a number 10 flathead.
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naa..screw that..
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Never heard of the concept being used in real life.
Except for being a decent human being.

But, the other day my wife was a dunkin donuts drive through.

The car in front paid for her stuff, she paid for the car behind. etc., etc.

She went in the next day and they told her it went on for 1-1/2 hrs.

pretty cool, one persons kindness can spread so easily.
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I carry a slim-jim and other various car lockout tools like an inflatable nylon bag, long slim rods with hooks, etc. for those times when a coat hanger is just not gonna get it.

It helps make someone's bad day a great day and they save the cost of a locksmith or a tow truck.
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naa..screw that..
No actually I was trying to unscrew it.... But I guess you get the point.



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I guess for me it just comes down to helping out someone in need without being asked. Hold a door, help load the half a pallet of whatever, change a tire, give a ride, throw in the few bucks when someone's short, etc. I try to treat people how I'd want someone to treat my kids if they were in need and I wasn't there.
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Yes all the time.
But I just refer to it as "being real"

To many people are comfortable disassociating them selves from the realities of other peoples lives. We are a community of individuals, and we are each unique, but the community as a whole needs to function more like a family.

Everything we do affects other people, good, bad, or "in between".
(I personally don't believe in "in between" , either its right, or its wrong.)

I've helped a hundred ppl on the sides of roads, I've left killer tips for waiters, bought coffee for the person behind me, rang up the register at my wife's store and told the customer "this is on us".

None of it was for my glory, but for my fathers....
I get allot of weird looks at times, most don't understand when I say "I love you, because Jesus loves me"
The point of the kindness is lost if the persons doesn't know how it came to be that the kindness was given to them.

We get blessed not so that we can hoard and squander our blessings, but so that we can bless others.
IE: Pay it forward (for u trendy types)




On the flip side of all this.
The DunkenDougnuts story JD told....
Same thing happened at my wife's store.
I was there for the whole thing.
1st couple leaves a $5 for the nxt shopper, 2nd left a $10, 3rd and 4th left $20's, 5th person didn't want to spend the money left for them, and then along comes #6

#6 was interesting.
Was obvious that they had money. It was a mature mom, with her married daughter.
When they got to the register the daughter pointed out the there was a 20 laying on the counter. I explained that it had been left there by a customer for the next shopper. And the nxt shopper is you.
Her eyes got big, she snatched up the cash and said to her mom, ooh what can we get?

Ended up spending less than 20 and didn't "pay it forward".
These are the type of ppl that seriously need our help.

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