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Old 08-24-2018, 10:37 PM   #1
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How To Say No....


neighbors are asking me do to work....

totally unsolicited....

i have helped a few out with electric problems, water heater issues and felling trees....

they are not asking for prices....

just do my kitchen, bathroom, garage etc....

i saw one guy get ripped off and helped him out....

how would you get out of this predicament.....
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Old 08-24-2018, 10:48 PM   #2
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neighbors are asking me do to work....



totally unsolicited....



i have helped a few out with electric problems, water heater issues and felling trees....



they are not asking for prices....



just do my kitchen, bathroom, garage etc....



i saw one guy get ripped off and helped him out....



how would you get out of this predicament.....


Well I've given in to one of my nieghbors, donated my time for free. Nothing big like a kitchen though.

I've made it clear I don't work for family or nieghbors. There's a way to tell them this without offending them. This type of communication is absolutely in your wheelhouse Griz.


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This is why I don't talk to my neighbors, it stops them from asking me for stuff.

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Old 08-25-2018, 04:34 AM   #4
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Neighbor (just retired) asked, begged me to "help him" fix hole in garage roof caused by fallen limb.

Finally relented, found a bundle of shingles close to his color, laddered onto roof, neighbor did not follow me up.

Also bought a couple tubes of roof sealant, tacked down everything picked up all the loose mess while he watched, placed it in his garbage can, while he watched.

Afterwards, I said I got to go - I'm late getting to the job site.

He says oh no, I have to pay you. I keeping saying no, he keeps insisting.

Alright - 50 bucks then. We'll give it to Make A Wish.

He instantly got red in the face and screamed at me and said I was a crook.

After that, I've always found a way to say no.

Other than that, nice neighbor....
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I dont talk to my neighbors much. That helps. The one next door to the right is a great guy. He retired from a local steel mill. He has an old lathe from the mill running off a phase converter in his basement. He has some kind of homemade, automated, wood carving machine. Its like a router connected to all these motors that is controlled by a PC that looks like its from 1985.

He's an interesting guy. Ive helped him with a few small projects. I enjoyed it just because of the conversation we have and checking out some of the things he has done.

My other neighbor? He told me he saw an alien ship buzz the trees on our property line and crash land on a hilltop about 1/2 mile away.

He told me this maybe 8 years ago. It was about 11pm, my wife and i were carrying the kids from the car into the house. He followed me right into my house and started yelling about it. He waa so drunk he was swaying. His words were a slurred mess. I told him to get the [email protected]&k out.

He stopped rambling and i think he kinda realized what he wad doing is completely inappropriate. Ge stepped outside, put his face against the screen door, and started yelling. You gotta come out here, i gotta show you this.

I could write a book on this but long story short, he pointed to a natural gas well pad site that was in the final costruction phase.


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Since you're retired, people will come up with all kinds of stuff. I mean, you don't have anything to do, right?

Tell them you've been advised that you should only take on jobs for women who are attractive, married, and have the same name as your wife.

Humor is the best way to get the point across and keep good relations with the neighbors.

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I would go measure up your neighbors bath remodel, kitchen, whatever. Be very friendly, like this was going to happen and you were interested. Then I'd write up a high estimate. And I'd give it to him. If he's like most, the calls will stop from everyone, cause hell tell the whole neighborhood how unreasonable you were. Either that, or you'll have to do a side job. But you'll get the point across.

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It's why you move somewhere the neighbors are only within shouting distance. Can come to their aid if they're hurt or go inside by the time they get to the fence to talk.
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Don't say no.

Let them say it.



Just tell them what it will cost them.
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Old 08-25-2018, 08:42 AM   #11
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In California, this should be easy...

Tell him as a licensed GC in California, any work done by you comes with liability due to state and insurance considerations so therefore a contract with market compensation is in order (or to keep things cop-esthetic) to protect your interests... want to throw him a bone, it's up to you...

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I destroyed both my rotator cuffs. It's the best excuse really. You should do it too.
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"I don't work in our neighborhood. It's my sacred ground for decompressing after a long work day, and I prefer to keep it that way."

I eventually told a couple neighbors that when I come home I'm not interested in work..doing it or discussing it much, because I see it as my down time. (I told two in particular because they were bugging me whenever they saw the van parked and would come knocking at any hour, always with a new little or bigger issue, etc.)

One guy, still comes over and I deal with it, but I'm now more adept at cutting him off when necessary. I park in the street, so it's a challenge to focus on tool issues, etc. when folks want to chat you up. one year I repaired some damage from raccoons for him. My penance was listening to about a years worth of "so have you seen any more raccoons up there..?"
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they are not asking for prices....


Meaning they treat you like Jaws' customers, "just do the work, we don't care what it costs," or they expect you to do it for free?

If it's the first, get yer butt to work.

You'll save a ton on fuel and travel time.
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Griz has to do the things with his wife that they'd both like to do while they're up to it.

I've known people who planned to do this or that together once they retired, only to be hit by medical issues that prevented it.

This is the time to make memories, not kitchens.
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Burn it down, preferably during a lightning storm.

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