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Old 10-30-2018, 12:43 AM   #1
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i am well aware i/we can't save/help them all....

old couple up the street.

dam near 90, independent & sharp....

old boy likes his bourbon...

about all they have is ss income and a small pension.

last year he asked me if he could trade me a bottle of bourbon for some firewood.

bottle of makers, took him 3 cords of wood.

he argued that it wasn't right & he owed more....

hey pop, you can't tell me how much to charge for wood...

so now their front door is literally rotting off the hinges & frame...

grand ma said they looked at doors at the hd and just can't afford them.

her sister is visiting & just as poor as them.

saw her tonight, gave her 50 bucks and told her to go to the mall and out to lunch tomorrow....

i'll put a new door in while they were gone....

i'm sure i'll hear about it....

just what are we to do with these folks???.....
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Old 10-30-2018, 06:58 AM   #2
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What do we do? The best we can for them.
I applaud your kindness. I do a fair amount of volunteering on things like that. You get burned sometimes, by some people. But it sounds like your old couple are the honorable type. If so, they deserve being helped out.

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When I was young, neighborhood kids did a lot for neighborhood old folks. Yardwork, snow shoveling, running small errands.

They paid you what they wanted to, and you accepted the payment. I can't tell you how many things I did for a dime LOL. With shoveling snow, I could get away sometimes just shoveling, and not checking if they wanted it done. If you could do it fast enough, you'd be gone before they tried to pay you.

I think kids used ti be a big resource for some if this, and kids just don't seem to do this kind of work any more.
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i am well aware i/we can't save/help them all....

old couple up the street.

dam near 90, independent & sharp....

old boy likes his bourbon...

about all they have is ss income and a small pension.

last year he asked me if he could trade me a bottle of bourbon for some firewood.

bottle of makers, took him 3 cords of wood.

he argued that it wasn't right & he owed more....

hey pop, you can't tell me how much to charge for wood...

so now their front door is literally rotting off the hinges & frame...

grand ma said they looked at doors at the hd and just can't afford them.

her sister is visiting & just as poor as them.

saw her tonight, gave her 50 bucks and told her to go to the mall and out to lunch tomorrow....

i'll put a new door in while they were gone....

i'm sure i'll hear about it....

just what are we to do with these folks???.....
Sounds like your doing it right. Under charge them and argue when they want to pay more.
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just what are we to do with these folks???.....
Sounds like you already figured that one out...
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I thought this thread was going to be about you.
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i am well aware i/we can't save/help them all....

old couple up the street.

dam near 90, independent & sharp....

old boy likes his bourbon...

about all they have is ss income and a small pension.

last year he asked me if he could trade me a bottle of bourbon for some firewood.

bottle of makers, took him 3 cords of wood.

he argued that it wasn't right & he owed more....

hey pop, you can't tell me how much to charge for wood...

so now their front door is literally rotting off the hinges & frame...

grand ma said they looked at doors at the hd and just can't afford them.

her sister is visiting & just as poor as them.

saw her tonight, gave her 50 bucks and told her to go to the mall and out to lunch tomorrow....

i'll put a new door in while they were gone....

i'm sure i'll hear about it....

just what are we to do with these folks???.....
Admit it... You're just storing up your good deeds for when one of us has to hang your door for you
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Headed to **** ass Midland to put a roof on a single wide for some older folks this weekend...

Thing is leaking like crazy, they bought it site unseen when they moved from here

Good for you Griz.... you need something to do do anyway. If your gonna be buying lunch and doors for all the old folks you might as well take on some paying work too
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It feels good to do nice things for nice people.

It is inspiring to hear about nice people doing things for other nice people.

Thanks for sharing.

I had the opposite problem with an elderly client of mine. She was loaded and used to try and overpay me for everything.

It got to the point where I would stop in once a month for a cup of tea and to fix whatever little thing she wanted fixed for fear that she would fall prey to some local scammer. You do whatyou can for the world and it usually comes back for you in other ways.
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Good for you !

Had a single little old lady down the street from our shop that lived in a pretty run down home. Had a storm and she had some roof problems and stopped in to ask if we could fix things. Sent the boys down there and basically did a total re-roof, new deck, shingles, edge metal, etc. Billed her about 1/3 of what we had in it, because we knew she couldn't afford much. That little old lady religiously came down to our shop once a month to make a payment and got the bill paid off in a couple years.

We aren't roofers either, we do commercial industrial GC work, but have a few carpenters that can handle this kind of thing. Sometimes you need to do a favor for those less fortunate.
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As hdavis mentioned it used to be the kids and others helping the neighbors. Those gracious folks are now the ones needing the help and the later generations are not stepping up to help. Sad really.

I have personally helped enough elderly people with sometimes simple things to far larger projects without ever asking for nor expecting a dime. Even finished the job my neighbors husband died doing, where he was performing tree work off of a ladder and fell when she wasn't home. Wound up doing a lot for her, and when she had a garage sale to move I was given first rights to anything I wanted. I grabbed a bamboo fly rod I still have today and do not use it, but keep it for the memories.

In so many ways giving is more rewarding than receiving


There are probably many others with wonderful stories too.
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I think kids used ti be a big resource for some if this, and kids just don't seem to do this kind of work any more.
My kids do.






If they don't, I smack em upside the head!
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Well, since it's my nature to be contrarian and difficult...

...sounds nice, but where DOES it end, and didn't they put themselves in the position? It depends on whether they're cheap arses or really in a bind, I guess.

I do my fair share, too, and am kinda wiped out. The retiree neighbor always has problems and I'm always cutting him a break or doing freebees.

Right now I'm eyeing another home of some "seniors" down the street. Their siding has been ripped open around the front door for months as part of a new front door overhang. It's been idle for many months, probably some permitting snafu. I'm sick of looking at it and beginning to feeling their pain as the weather cools down.
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How do people end up squeaking by? Some people wind up with all kinds of health exoenses, some people live longer than they had planned for, and then there are a bunch that didn't really plan. Never owned a house, don't have a pension,...
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How do you fix it? Get some retired contractors that can't keep their fingers out of it, and maybe feed small handyman stuff to HS votech.

Maybe.
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Well, since it's my nature to be contrarian and difficult...

...sounds nice, but where DOES it end, and didn't they put themselves in the position? It depends on whether they're cheap arses or really in a bind, I guess.

I do my fair share, too, and am kinda wiped out. The retiree neighbor always has problems and I'm always cutting him a break or doing freebees.

Right now I'm eyeing another home of some "seniors" down the street. Their siding has been ripped open around the front door for months as part of a new front door overhang. It's been idle for many months, probably some permitting snafu. I'm sick of looking at it and beginning to feeling their pain as the weather cools down.
Then, just go fix it.

What...an hour or two out of your day?

No...you can't be the sucker for every elderly couple that needs something but yes you can be somewhat of a judge of character and give where maybe giving is due.

And if that's not the case? So what....your conscious is clear.
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Then, just go fix it.

What...an hour or two out of your day?

No...you can't be the sucker for every elderly couple that needs something but yes you can be somewhat of a judge of character and give where maybe giving is due.

And if that's not the case? So what....your conscious is clear.
It's bigger than just a couple hours, permit still in window, and I don't really speak to them. We'll see. And I'm over-committed on my own stuff, including friends and family.

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I installed a double Trex gate for an elderly couple across the street from me. Absolutely pro bono. Also installed a new front door for a nieghbor that got broke into while they were on vacation. Sometimes it's okay to be kind.


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