Wedding Responsibilities

JustaFramer

I don't have any answers but congratulations for your family. And I'll pray for you sister.

Cdat

Who is getting married? You or your kid? Tell 'em to foot the bill. It's their party. I paid for my own. All my parents had to buy was a tux rental and the gas to get there.

As for my kids, I expect the same from them. My son can pay his own way and my daughter? She's high maintenance so who evere lands her, will be able to afford her.

IHI

I think it'll be a 50/50 split descion on this, half of us did'nt get a handout and had to fend for ourselves which i believe makes things more valuable since we had to put in the time to think ahead and plan. BUT i also have no problem with parents who can afford to spoil their kids and give them a free ride...just wish i came from roots that'd allow that to be the case.

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AmeliaP

2 Photographers is exactly how you should do it. Have fun!!

jtpro

Just a thought wood butcher but something I've seen/heard at weddings is to put out disposable cameras on the tables at the dinner/dance. Then a drop box/bag at the exit.

I know you are trying to keep cost down but along with the 2 "official" photogs. you can get other priceless shots from the POV of guests.

The 2 others will be focusing on the main parts and focal points and the guests can capture the backgound so to speak.

FremontREO

Wedding was super and everyone had a great time!
Son got married 2 months ago so I am officially broke. Wife said to get back to work....crud

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PA woodbutcher

I married my daughter off Dec 1st a couple of years ago. I know the feeling

Congrats Hall looks good. I'll snap a couple of Pics of the hall when we're done friday.

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FremontREO

You know the absolutely best thing we bought was a 1000 glow sticks that we put on each table and everyone (adults included) had these things hanging around their necks, wrists etc all night when the lights were turned down. Looked like something from a 70's disco! They only cost like $50 from ebay. Biggest hit of the night and the cheapest..go figure!

PA woodbutcher

Thought I would give an update..Sorry no pics of the hall before they started, was kinda busy doing other stuff.

All the guys including the in laws went to the bar the night they got in and got pretty loaded and spent time visiting. His new father in law half way through the night says "I don't want to come off as a cheap ass, but I spent a couple of thousand dollars getting out here" I responded with I would rather not talk money while were drinking I paid for just about everything (including putting up his 29 YO son who didn't have a hotel room) while they were here including a $600 banquet for everyone from out of town for the rehearsal dinner. I asked him to pay for the cake, $250, the wedding bouquets (I paid for all the corsages and bootaneers) and asked him to pay for the hall rental which was $1,000.

It was a beautiful wedding and reception. Reception started at 5 in the evening and went until 3 in the morning with the DJ playing the whole time. 45 gallons of beer and 26 gallons of wine. When they were getting ready to leave he asked me what he owed me, and I said nothing we're square. He say's you sure? Told him then that he seemed like a decent sort of man and I appreciated that. If he had turned out as an asshole I had reciepts. I laughed, he laughed He then tells me he always had a high opinion of my son and that opinion had done nothing but gone up. It was money well spent!

Never did tell him about my sister in law, although I'm sure he heard from others. She was operated on the day that my son got here (the 10th). What started out as a 2 1/3 hour surgery turned into 7. She is still in in the hospitol, but is improving...She actually looks better now than she did when she went in and they are starting to talk about her coming home, not when, but at least coming home.

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PA woodbutcher

They did put out cameras and there was 1 priceless pic taken that I know of....1 young lady, servicing 1 of the groomsmen That was the only one that I heard of.

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Tom Struble

[quote=Cdat;799272]Who is getting married? You or your kid? Tell 'em to foot the bill. It's their party. I paid for my own. All my parents had to buy was a tux rental and the gas to get there.

my daughter? She's high maintenance /quote]


you ever hear of one that wasn't?

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Tom

Winchester

Bride's side should pay. However, if I was the bride's side I might be a little bitter towards you guys inviting 10 time more people than our side

If you ask them to go 50/50 though, I don't think there should be any hard feelings. Especially if they are into the "traditional ways", they'll consider you generous.




However, is the bride an only child? If so, let them foot the whole bill... it's their only child after all

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Ryan

WNYcarpenter

This is such a late post...

I thought the tradition was that the grooms family covered the rehearsal dinner and the chuch, the brides family the reception...

If that was the case then it would have worked well if handled the other way....the bride's close family was in town, and all probably attended the dinner...It was your party....That's a moot point now.

You're a good man, and I thank your son for his service!

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rservices

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