Ok This Is Serious And Not A Joke. What Should I Do?

Grumpy

As the title says this is not a joke. I'm scared. Let me explain.

We did some work for a condo association. The president happens to be a homosexual, which I really don't have a problem with. We got a kick out of him flirting with my roofers. Well now's my turn.

We did this job last year. I called him last week asking if he would be a refrence for new customer who wanted to talk to a few past customers before signing. Well he agreed and I thanked him.

Today he calls "Can you come over on friday after noon? I haven't seen you in awhile and just want to catch up."

I feel like if I don't go I just burn a satisfied customer.

I've never been in a situation like this before I feel bad because if this guy were heterosexual I probably would take the hour to stop over for a cup of coffee.

ProWallGuy

Grumpy, just because he's homosexual doesn't mean its not just for a chat and coffee.

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Cole

I agree.

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Big Dave

Me three. Maybe he has some upcoming work for ya.

Dave.

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Teetorbilt

Tom, you have a common phobia. He's probably no more interested in you than you are in him. Go for it and he'll hook you up with a lot more business. Personally, I don't care for the 'flamers' but deal with everyone on a weekly basis. For me, it goes with the territory. Just make a stand on who you are and 99% will understand.

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Glasshousebltr

Like you said Grump, it's not a joke.

Bob

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Downeast

I think its odd that he didn't mention work at that time,saying catch up with things and discuss some new work.

So its a bit odd,but I would feel that way if the person was a hetro,and very happy if it were a gorgeous women.



But a few weeks ago I was in the neighborhood of a customer that I got along with very with him and his wife,so I drove down the street and he was out in the yard so I stopped. Basically we just chatted and caught up on things for about ten minutes then on my way I went.

slickshift

I agree

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joasis

In this day and age of enlightened attitudes, I can't really believe you would give it a second thought...go....sign more work....

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Scott Young

as far as i am concerned i would go even though that life style gives me the heebeegeebees. i would go and be friendly. if he did make a pass and come on to me then i would simple recite what many women have told me. i am flattered, but i am involved at the present time. don't make any excuses and move on the next subject. be as nonchalant as you can about shifting the subjects as a let down is a let down is a let down.

if you are not involved at the moment then tell him there is someone you are already interested in. either way don't choke over the gay thing...it is business.

now, if he pushes it simply tell him you are straight and aren't interested in a gay relationship as you have a difficult time understanding the concept.

if he still pushes then leave.


just a side note. i don't understand the whole gay thing. i get bile in my throught just thinking of what they do. i don't watch a lot of tv cause it seems the homosexual agenda is being crammed down our throats. all this said i have learned that my personal feelings have little to do with respect and common decency. it has been a long hard road for this redneck.

ron schenker

C'mon Grump, can't I make just one joke

Glasshousebltr

Come on fella's.....he probably just wants to give Grump a job.

Bob

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Teetorbilt

Bob, I was waiting.

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Big Dave

Just don't blow him off. Wait...that didn't come out right.

Dave.

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Glasshousebltr

LOL Dave

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Bob

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Downeast

Its not like he is asking you to bend over backwards or something,just a chat.

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Grump,
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mdshunk

While I am 100% opposed to the homosexual lifestyle, that group has been a steady source of good, non-complaining, well paying customers. I, too, would struggle with whether to stop by his place or not. I will admit that I might be "busy" for a while, just to see how badly he really wants me to stop by.

His request is really a little weird... I've never had a customer, homosexual or otherwise, ask me to stop by and chat. I have, however, called on a few old customers here and there just for a chat.

Do you really, really need any referrals that he might or might not have lined up for you? I know he's on your reference list now, but that's easy enough to change. Do you really think he's be that pissed if you were "busy"? Is your girlfriend/wife okay with it? Does she have an opinion? These are the questions I'd be thinking about.

Glasshousebltr

Backwards? you fellas in Cape Cod are kinky.

Bob

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6stringmason

I agree with basically everything that has been said here.

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