Most Shocked/angry With Your Spouses Spending.

Rich Turley

Reading the Christmas gift thread brought back some memories (I'd like to forget) about a shopping experience with my wife. Really out of character for her, she is like GLK's wife, a shopping spree of $300 - $800 is something special for her. Not because I have ever put any limits on her. Her upbring is where she got the limits from.

We went to Orlando for my son's wedding, deciding to buy a dress for her there, but didn't get around to it until the morning of the afternoon wedding. This was not a formal affair and held in a park.

As we drove around an area unfamiliar to us stopping at stores we couldn't find something she liked or that could be ready in time and the sense of urgency kept getting stronger.

We finally landed in a Saks Fifth Avenue, first time for either of us. An associate listened to her situation and promised everything would be okay. Spent a couple of hours hooking her up with everything from shoes to jewlry. Even had her hair and makeup done over.

Other associates made me comfortable with newspaper and bottled water of my choice.

Karla came out wearing everything just looking great and sat with me beaming while they "rung her up". Ten minutes later I'm getting pretty nervous now about what is going on and we got to skidaddle for the wedding anyway. Then I found out that Saks has my credit card and Karla has no idea what the cost is.

The associate comes out with the slip for me to sign. My wife knows it's bad by my reaction, which I believe I hid quite well. I took the sales associate aside for some detail.

They had me over a barrel. Refuse the sale at a time when we needed to go straight to the wedding ruining the special day, or bend over and take it. I'm sure the whole thing was planned, they spent so much time together talking that I know the associate knew exactly when the wedding was, saw that Karla didn't ask about prices and took advantage of the situation.

I signed the slip and decided to never talk about it with her. She has asked a couple of times, I tell her to forget it, remember the special day. I'm afraid that if I told her it would become a problem. We wouldn't fight about it cause she would feel terrible, it would tear her up. Besides, generally I spend more than she does pretty consistently.

I was going to post the cost but have decided not to as I use my real name and company. We have been married 27 years and I will say that it was quite a few years before I ever could have spent that much on a car.

Rich

dougchips

Over 3k?

POOLMANinCT

ouch.. im sure she looked great

PressurePros

Money comes and goes. Its meaningless. You can always make more. That memory for your wife is a once in a lifetime deal. It sounds like she is a good woman and would never spend lavishly without you knowing it. She probably deserved every penny of that afternoon.

Put the value into what you spent and put it behind you. You walked into Sak's, you knew what you were getting into. Saks, Neimann Marcus, etc ..all those stores have a mentality of "if you gotta ask, you can't afford it"

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Teetorbilt

My wife, Ol'#1, came home with a new Volvo once!

That irked me quite a bit but going over the deal is what really fried me. She paid full sticker plus all of the add-ons and took low book on a 3yr. old Pontiac with low miles, always garaged and full service records!

The Volvo was also a piece of junk and I made them exchange it for another one when it had 3,500 miles on it.

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Tscarborough

20 years and never a raised voice with my wife. About 10 years ago, I quit being frustrated and made HER take over the bills. Problem solved.

Teetorbilt

Ts, #2 has always been in charge of the electric, phone and TV. Why? She's the one that turns everything on and nothing off and talks, nonstop, to her family up north.

I don't mind the normal stuff but $400 electric bills and phone bills that exceed that, somethings got to give.

I have a brother who is just like her.

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Richard

#2 is actually better at this than me--I'm the one who buys "necessary things" at the store because I'd be "in trouble without them"--
I can pride myself as roles have changed with the bills--she used to be in charge of them, now I am and things go pretty smooth. One main reason I married her was for her lack of being materialistic...I feel bad for the guys in here who have to constantly laso their wives back to reality

In short my wife feels bad when she buys something that is an extra $20, so I guess I'll sit back and feel lucky

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DecksEtc

My girlfriend (common law for 4 years now) and I have our own bank accounts. She spends what she wants and I do the same and we share the bills. She never questions my spending nor do I question hers.

I learned from my ex-wife that a joint account is a BAD thing. I'm still recovering my credit after being divorced for 5 years now!

Double-A

Trust and money have to go together.

As for spending that much on the wedding, forget it. Its water under the bridge and nothing will change it now. Good quality is not cheap, so don't be cheap.

This applies to clothing as well. Besides, I bet your wife never looked that good wearing a Chevy.

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Richard

The way you you've worded this means you've been together for 11 years! After 7 years (by common law) you're technically married, at least I think. Man if you've been with her 11 years and she hasn't made you put a rock on her hand, dang...

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DecksEtc

Common law kicks in after a year in Canada.

However, I should have said, we've been together for 4 years and common law for 3.

Richard

wow...1 year huh? That's so diff. from here--but then again Canada is different in a lot of ways from the US--99% of those ways are better than here too, so I've heard. Saw a documentary about how Canadians dont lock front doors and stuff....this is a truely amazing concept....down here they are locked and we stand behind the door like this---...

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Glasshousebltr

Unfortunately, I have a difficult time sympathizing with this topic because I've never had a women take me to the bank, bludgeon me over the head, and rob me on my birthday........They've all waited until I arrived back at the truck.

Each time I unwittingly meander back to the truck with a sheepish grin, kinda like the salmon jumping into the mouth of a grizzly on the latest National Geographic film special.

Rich.....we gota know how much.....come on buddy....ya can't tell a joke like this without the punch line.

Bob

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recruit4meisner

All I can say is- You're a very lucky man! Mine practically lives there

Rich Turley

Pretty good guess Dougchips. But, water under the bridge. One benefit is that they now send these catologs out that are an inch and a half thick full of great looking women! And there isn't even a store in the state of Washington.

Rich

theworx

I don't know what documentary you saw but trust me, It's not like that... I've had 3 vehicles stolen in the last 2 years (and I live in a nice area, from what I'm told). My brother who lives in a not so nice area has been broken into 3 times in the last 2 months, had his stuff replaced by insurance only to have it stolen again. Last night 3 cops were shot doing a drug raid. We are also the murder capital of Canada.

I think if the documentary said we don't lock our doors the guy who produced it was on crack or only had references from way out in the country (Like a farmstead standing alone many miles away from a city). It's not like you think it might be. We have asian, native, and other ethnic gangs who deal in drugs and other illegal activities. People are killed here almost everyday because of that fact (including cops)...

Just trying to set you straight. I live in a small city in Canada, I would like to hear some stories from guys that live in Toronto or Vancouver??? Where I'm sure gang activity is worse than here.... Also, we are not allowed to have guns (a huge process to be able to do so). In fact, I had my pellet pistol destroyed by the police because my brother in law was shooting at old tires in my backyard last summer (it wasn't properly stored or registered)...

mdshunk

I am very happy to report that I have ended up with a very thrifty wife, who is satisfied with simple pleasures. I arrived home a few weeks ago, in which my wife met me with a big hug. She was nearly in tears, asking me not to be mad at her. Aparently, she signed up for graduate classes and spent $11,000. I want not mad at all. On the contrary, I was quite pleased. I am very proud of her in general, and that $11,000 will translate into hundreds of thousands of dollars in future earnings, no doubt. I feel bad for guys who's wives seem to gravitate towards every store's sale like a moth to a flame. I'm pretty sure that domestic violence is permissable during such circumstances.

Rich Turley

I guess that with close to 4 thousand posts you're bound to say something dumb. Here's to the next 4 thousand informative and helpful posts!

Rich